Why You’re Avoiding Hard Conversations

I never realized until today the connection between perfectionism and an avoidant communication style... (both of which I still strive all the time to not get the best of me.)

So, I'm curious, maybe you can relate – do you ever do this?

Do you think that before having a difficult conversation you have to have everything figured out?

You make assumptions about how the other person is gonna respond?

And you put all this pressure on yourself to figure everything out and come up with a full resolution before entering the conversation?

I think some people are “avoidant” because of perfectionism (I can be this way).

Yet, diving in before we know is the way!

Because we don’t really know, and when we think we do, we limit the possibilities.

We also set ourselves up to be less likely to have the hard conversation.

And we deprive the other person of an opportunity to share their input and co-create a resolution with us.

Relationships can be so much more alive & exciting when we bring our vulnerability & curiosity to the table.

Try this on:

Instead of thinking you need a full resolution before entering a difficult conversation, go in without a resolution excited to collaborate and co-create a solution.

Show up to the conversation with warmth and positive assumption, instead of coming in already defensive.

More than likely, you'll come up with more satisfying and magical solutions than you could have come up with on your own.

I'd LOVE to hear from you – how do you show up for hard conversations?  What practices have helped you have healthier, stronger communication?  Send me a message on IG - I love to have those talks with you!