What does truth mean to you? What are your truths? Who gave you these truths?
Now, question all of it. Dare to ask "What if?"
Once you tackle and address your subconscious beliefs, you'll find what's really going on and open up the space to invite fresh new awesome beliefs and experiences that you'd love to welcome into your life.
Truth or Myth: "A successful career will prove my worth."
I always considered having a successful career as my ultimate goal. That's where I placed my self-worth. I was always good at school because I enjoyed learning and I was self-disciplined and a bit of a perfectionist and obsessive. And someone who excels in school ultimately pursues a big shot career, is what I thought. So, every decision I made leading up to applying for college, securing internships, graduating, moving to New York City – it was all towards one goal: a prominent career that would be viewed as impressive and high-profile by my peers, family, friends, LinkedIn contacts, Facebook friends, Twitter followers, etc, etc.
I thought this was how I was going to prove myself and find fulfillment. Yet, surprise, the only thing I found was a sense of emptiness because I wasn't pursuing my truth. Now, I've found myself questioning now more than ever whether a career is what I really want to spend my lifetime on. Why do I have to do one thing for my whole life? Why not spend my life pursuing experiences? Why not follow what makes me actually, genuinely happy?
Truth or Myth: "I don't have enough money to do that."
Why don't you have enough money to do what you want to do? Where else is your money going? People always want to know how Leah and I afford to travel as much as we do, and we always tell them the same thing – we make travel our priority. When it's a priority, you allocate your income accordingly. Our fantasies are our realities in an excuse-free world.
Stop to think about why you've convinced yourself that this is your "truth." Is it because you've grown up not having any money? Is it because you struggle with poor money management? Whatever it is, it's nothing that can't be changed. You have the power to manifest your own reality. If you believe it, it will become your truth. Speak your truth to the universe, and the universe will respond.
Truth or Myth: “I must follow the traditional life path to be considered successful: college, marriage, kids, house, retire, die.”
We grow up with society convincing us that this traditional path is our only option to follow if we don’t want to suck at life. But when we actually reach the age where we’re supposed to start following through with each step, it gets scary and intimidating. We think, this is what I’m supposed to be doing, though, right? Isn't this what everyone else is doing too?
I tried following this path myself when I got married at 18 years old. I blinked and my entire life changed. I was expected to be a wife, a homemaker, a life partner. The topic of kids would come up and I would feel my heart beat faster and anxiety build in the pit of my stomach. When I thought of having kids, I thought of all the things I hadn’t yet been able to do. I thought of the places I wanted to travel to and the different cultures I wanted to experience. Those dreams felt so far away and impossible to reach as I settled into my life as a wife. Needless to say, the marriage ended and my life restarted. Getting a divorce felt like a fresh start for me. I was able to live again. I was able to be me again.
This experience opened my eyes to my own personal truth. What is yours? Don't wait until one day, in 10 or 20 years, you wake up and look back on all the things you’ve missed out on in life because you chose this path that someone told you to follow. Find your own path. Everyone’s looks different. Embrace yours! Stand proudly in the truth that you’ve discovered for yourself.
Truth or Myth: "I have to be in a relationship in order to feel happy and complete."
I often see people jump from relationship to relationship so quickly without allowing themselves the time to heal from their last relationship before committing to the next. It seems like this behavior stems from the common perception that if you're single you must be doing something wrong.
Tinder and dating sites have become such a huge part of our generation because we are so desperate to find a partner. Instead of obsessing over finding someone to love you, why not spend that time and energy loving yourself? In relationships, we invest and sacrifice so much of ourselves and often lose ourselves in the process.
It's easy to become dependent on someone else, which causes us to forget how to be independent and content by ourselves. There is something so empowering and beautiful about being completely independent and totally self-sufficient.
Of course, relationships can be wonderful, but we should never measure our worth on our relationship status. No one will ever complete you – only you can complete yourself.