The Time Is Now

9:16 PM Manda Manning 0 Comments



Time is valuable. Your time is priceless.
So don't waste it on people who don't deserve it.
Who take advantage of it.
Who take it for granted.
Who waste it.

Don't forget to spend time on yourself. You owe that to yourself. You deserve it.
You can't be happy with anyone unless you can be truly happy by yourself and with yourself. Don't hide behind your friendships and relationships. Invest time in your relationship with yourself.
I've been in a relationship and had past friendships where the other person was jealous of the time I took to myself. Like, bro, how can you be jealous of me spending too much time with me? That just doesn't even make sense. This type of behavior should be a big 'ol red flag to you. You should move along as quickly and smoothly as possible.


Learn how to not depend on anyone but yourself. Independence is the key to unlocking your potential. When you're not dependent on anyone, you learn to figure things out on your own. You're pushed to grow, to mature, to advance, to progress. Being alone is a scary thought to a lot of people, but sometimes the best thing we can do for ourselves is to be alone with ourselves.
Earlier today, I was reading the label on my shampoo bottle (idk, because who doesn't do that), and these words referring to the health of my hair suddenly struck me as words speaking of my mental health. It said in large, bold letters: STRENGTHEN, GROW & RESTORE. Wow. Okay, mhm. So relevant. That's the process I've been growing through for the past year, ever since I took back control of my life. Being on my own again, it really took me to this next level of inner-strength -- to have to find myself again and then pick myself up again. It was rough to face that, but it was beneficial. And on the other end of it, I completely branched out in all directions and just focused on life experiences. I haven't had a single regret. I've learned from all of it. I will never regret stepping away from the life I had to find myself again. To live for me again. I still can't put into words the feeling of relief and freedom I feel every day.
It is my goal to never stop growing, never stop learning, never stop experiencing. Don't stay stagnant, keep moving forward. I will put in the work to achieve what I want. And now, through all of it, I've come out as a new person again. I'm shedding my old skin and letting my new self shine proudly. I'm unstoppable. But I have also taken the precious time to restore - mentally, emotionally, physically. It al goes hand-in-hand, I believe. Mental, emotional and physical health all play key roles in your life and your happiness. I feel like I'm in a truly healthy place in life, and it keeps my spirit beaming and a smile on my face when I wake up in the mornings.


Be confident in what you want, in who you are. Find what drives you to wake up at 5:00 a.m., what you can't stop thinking about every day sitting at your desk, what you would drop everything tomorrow to do if given the opportunity. Chase that. Spend ten minutes every day working towards that goal. Make it a priority, like it's a second job. If anyone doubts that you can really do it, use it as motivation to prove them wrong.
Also, this was something I fell for and I always warn my friends of - as for the people who expect you to change yourself to fit what they want/need, forget them. Walk away. There are people who won't ask you to change, who will support you. Believe me, it's easy to change little pieces of yourself over and over again until one day you don't recognize yourself anymore. It's important to stay self-aware and recognize and face the things about yourself that you know you need to work on. They are usually the things that will cause conflict in your relationships. If people in your life also recognize these issues -- good, great. That means they're observant. That's good. But when someone close to you starts trying to change other things about you that you actually value and appreciate, then you better think twice about what they're actually bringing to your life. Is it positivity or is it negativity?


At the end of the day, do what's best for yourself. Make your life decisions based off of what would make the most sense for you. When I finally started doing this, I turned everything around. I turned my life in a whole new direction and never looked back. I left my relationship, my job, my home. It was the best decision I've ever made. But I will never regret what lead me to that relationship, or job, or to spending time at home. They were all learning experiences and I've taken valuable lessons from each.


My time has been spent a lot on other people lately, but I tend to do that because I inherited the awful curse of being an introverted people-pleaser; meaning I can't ever say "no." I have an automatic reaction to tell people what I think they want to hear. However, I feel happiest and most in-tune with myself when I spend ample time with myself, by myself. I need that, I crave it. It's very necessary to my mental health. So, I've been practicing saying "no" more often.* It's a learning process.
*(However, this is not to say that I'm not surrounded by the most amazing humans. They are beyond what I deserve. I adore them, the handful that they are. They uplift me, and I am eternally grateful to them for it.)

If there is one thing I learned last year, that I've still been consistently working on, it's to take control of your own life. I refuse to ever feel like I'm not in control of my life ever again. Free yourself from any thoughts that lead you to believe your decisions must make someone else happy. Free yourself from any relationships that don't encourage you to take care of yourself. Free yourself from any burdens that make you feel not capable of accomplishing your goals and attaining your dreams.

There is only one you. What are you living for? Where are you going in life? Are you going up? Are the people around you going up, as well?

We only have the present. What are you going to do with it?

-M

A few weeks ago, as I came out of a three-day bender, I sat down and started to write. The only words that ended up on the page were: "What is my next move? Am I doing enough? How do I make my dreams a reality? Where do I begin? How do I get started? I am sitting here questioning all of these things and questioning myself. I need to build my confidence and start making moves. The time is now."

I felt really disappointed in myself that this was all I could manage to write. I know my potential and my worth, yet I was doubting everything.

In the past couple of weeks, I have found confidence and a direction, and I am ready to run with it. I have the ability to create anything I want for myself. I have found that the most liberating thing in the world is to have the freedom and the strength to be yourself. Stop holding back because someone may not like that part of you. Don't doubt the face you made in a picture or the fire outfit you put together because the guy you were talking to last week may not be into it. LIVE FOR YOU!

I've been digging deeper than ever on this journey to true self love, and along the way I have discovered some key points.

Affirmations - This is something I learned while seeing my therapist last year. I couldn't see what the benefits were at first, but she pushed me to write down as many affirmations to myself as I could. I struggled to think of more than five at first; then, once I got started, I was on a roll and wrote down almost twenty. I ended up printing these affirmations, framing them, and now they sit next to my bed and I read them almost everyday.

There are other ways to use affirmations, as well. Come up with one at the beginning of your day and repeat it throughout the day when you are struggling to see the bright side, or are tempted to send a mean text, or when you are tempted to drink to forget it all.

Today, I woke up and said to myself "I am positive and productive." I needed a little boost to get through the long day ahead of me. When I was having to make a million phone calls on my one hour break during my ten hour work day, I repeated: "I am positive and productive." When I went back to work that night and was tempted to dump a pitcher of tea on the needy man's head at my table, I repeated in my head: "I am POSITIVE and productive." Instead, I gave him a really big smile.

Affirmations are a great way to build confidence and cultivate the potential in yourself. The more you repeat these affirmations to yourself, the easier it is to see the best in yourself.

-L

Part 2 coming soon...

If you're not following #manning_sisters, this is what we've been up to.
"If you came to slay, say, 'I SLAY!'"
Causin' a scene, actin' up, per usual, at dinner in LA.


"Yo, pedro, what's gooooood!" 
Showing Leah around Manda's old hood, San Pedro.

"ALL THE WAY UP"
Just a casual hike in Red Rocks. 

*continues to slay, all day*

wavy in denver

And this is Manda shredding Bear Mountain with her Master Plan Communications crew.

The Mannings do a brewery tour. Full of lol's to say the least.

"We're just here for the free samples, tbh."
Coors Brewery, CO

Standing in the snow for free beer. This is fine.

The happiest side by side.

This beautiful woman is our dear mother. We would all be complete wrecks without each other. Thanks for keeping us sane, mom.

Love you, mom.

Putting in werk at brunch.

"STOP INTERRUPTING MY GRINDING."

"We take brunch v seriously. We're, like, professionals."

Leah's 2nd trip to Cali:
*gets in formation*

"I got RiRi right next to me!"
On the way to Queen Bey in the backseat.

"You be actin' extra, I can't take you no where"
Can't take us no where.
"HOLD UP, they don't love you like I love you."

This night started very classy with glazed brussel sprouts and dirty martinis.
It ended with eating pizza straight out the box, squatting on the sidewalk.

home sweet home.


she's happy. :)


S Q U A D S O T I G H T


xo
Leah and I have been through all of it together. Really high ups, and really low downs. Through the worst of relationships, and through the best of friendships. Through different countries, and through different perspectives. We've pushed each other to our limits, and we've always been the one we run back to. Our bond is unbreakable. It's special and I certainly do not take it for granted. I don't know who I would be without it.
We are going to conquer all of our goals and then set new goals and dominate those, too. We're going to do it all. We are the Manning Sisters and we came to SLAY.


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